*Yes, I am posting this a day late; I am absolutely exhausted from being in the hospital for 3 days and being on non-stop narcotic medications, I want to give this the once over before publishing so unfortunately I will not be able to get this finished until tomorrow morning.
Well, I can hardly believe that today has come:
the 3 year anniversary of having my hysterectomy
As most of my readers are aware I'm also working on a book about all of this and I have an entire chapter (though to be honest it could be a BOOK in itself!) about my hysterectomy and I thought I'd share a blurb from my book today- seems appropriate:
I felt such peace the morning after my surgery I felt like a BRAND NEW WOMAN |
If someone had a hysterectomy the last thing they would want to look at is a healthy mommy and baby photo hanging on the wall. (And I never even wanted children and I was shaken to my very core- I cannot imagine how devastating such a careless oversight could be to someone who had dreams of being able to have children but would no longer be able)
If someone had a baby and everything went fine, with mommy and baby, they don’t need to have a healthy mommy and baby photo hanging on the wall— they have their own baby to ooh and awe at.
So, I find myself, on this the evening of the 3rd year anniversary of my hysterectomy, writing this in a hospital room of the very hospital in which I had my hysterectomy- recovering (rather trying to recover might be most accurate) from a very strange and overwhelming (potential) complication in the recovery from my 5th endometriosis surgery. The healing miracle I so desperately hoped for and need so many years ago that I truly believed would be found in the hysterectomy has remained nowhere to be found. The miracle I've wished for in each surgery has sadly diminished to a few months-long reprieve from symptoms but nothing long-lasting- this is what has followed each surgery/treatment I've undergone for endometriosis.
It is too early to say what the results from this most recent surgery will be but I sure am hopeful that the relief I find will last longer than a few months. A few months is simply no longer acceptable. I have been very lucky with each great, pain-free (or at least less painful) day I've had through this hellish trek my body and I have been on following my first excision surgery (June 17, 2014--another brief reprieve followed by the ominous and long-lasting let down); however, I have lost the incredible gift of MOMENTUM. What is life without momentum? How can you begin a career, and build your professional reputation, no matter how incredible you are at your work and how skilled you are, without reliability and the unpredictability of the disease resulting in numerous and mostly unplanned absences. It does not matter how incredibly amazing you are with your job if you aren't able to get out of bed and go- your career will not survive. Unfortunately I know this first hand, as I've lost a job due to my absences. The loss of momentum that accompanies endometriosis is truly a devastating aspect of this disease; and because this disease attacks us women at the exact time when we should be designing, building and truly gaining our lives' momentum (and this is referring to momentum in all areas in our life -- professional, romantic, social, spiritual, etc).
I feel like our teen years should be a time of self and world exploration, a time when our ideals are discovered, played with, tested, believed in; a time when we begin to truly develop a relationship with our bodies and ourselves; a time when we begin discovering what our dreams are for our life and the many aspects of it; it is also the time we begin taking the steps and doing the work necessary to get where we want and make those dreams come true. When you have a disease such as endometriosis a great majority of this time that should be used for these other vital developmental stepping stones is instead spent curled up in the fetal position experiencing terrifying, overwhelming pain, crying because you don't know what to do, and missing school, canceling plans with friends-- ultimately resulting in feelings of loneliness, worthlessness, hopelessness and despair.
Our 20s build on the momentum gained in and continuing from our teen years. We begin, or continue, with our destination in mind. Even if our dreams or plans came, and they frequently do, it is ok because we already have the momentum simply of "going." Our networks become even more important (which is hard to believe when we're younger lol) as our professional and maybe romantic aspects of our lives begin, or continue, to blossom and develop. Our networks and connections can help us in countless ways- especially in this special young age as we are just starting and having connections to count on can help in countless ways as we forge our way forward, as we continue to maintain and hopefully we begin to not only sustain but increase our life's momentum.
Being in the hospital and being in such intense pain resulted in deep, very deep boredom, which led me to doing a ridiculous little photoshoot with a girlfriend who came to visit. I absolutely love editing pictures on my phone and I think some of these really came out beautifully, and they leave me with a feeling of peace and relaxation which is not how I have been feeling the past three days being in the hospital experiencing truly grueling pain- relaxation seems to be the furthest from the truth of how it is to stay in the hospital.
The song that I feel for tonight's entry I feel is called Safe and Sound by Taylor Swift, I really enjoy the cover version by Savannah Berry; if you'd like to watch the video please click here.
Here are the lyrics to this song:
I could lift you up
I could show you what you wanna see
And take you where you wanna be
You could be my luck
Even if the sky is falling down
I know that we'll be safe and sound
We're safe and sound!
I could fill your cup
You know my river won't evaporate
This world will still appreciate
You could be my luck
Even in a hurricane of frowns
I know that we'll be safe and sound!
(Safe and sound)
We're safe and sound
(Safe and sound)
We're safe and sound
(Hold your ground)
We're safe and sound
(Safe and sound)
I could show you love
In a tidal wave of mystery
You'll still be standing next to me
You could be my luck
Even if we're six feet underground
I know that we'll be safe and sound
We're safe and sound!
Safe and sound
Safe and sound
Hold your ground
Safe and sound
I could lift you up
I could show you what you wanna see
And take you where you wanna be
You could be my luck
Even if the sky is falling down
I know that we'll be safe and sound!
I could lift you up
I could show you what you wanna see
And take you where you wanna be
You could be my luck
Even if the sky is falling down
I know that we'll be safe and sound!
We're safe and sound
We're safe and sound
We're safe and sound
We're safe and sound
(Safe and sound)
We're safe and sound
(Safe and sound)
We're safe and sound
(Hold your ground)
We're safe and sound
(Safe and sound)
We're safe and sound
This song sounds to me almost like a lullaby and with everything I have going on right now I desperately need that soft, protective, loving energy and I completely feel enveloped in it when I listen to this song. I listened to it on repeat while writing this entire post
This is a big emotional post, and process I am in so I have decided to stop writing for tonight and will further explore these issues likely tonight during my painsomnia and tomorrow.
Wishing love and healing hugs to my readers, especially those of you suffering from endometriosis. Please remember we are not alone in this battle, though it feels solitary most of the time, so please reach out should you need any support or simply a connection.
namaste ॐ
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